Community often moves on before the folks within it do. This is a space to give form to the lingering disappointments, recurring offenses, and the moments where the community chose complacency over dialogue.This isn't a call-out board or a space to process trauma. Nor should posting here replace conversation where conversation is welcomed. The purpose of this board is to witness and be witnessed. To platform what our community does not always adequately address—the negative and the positive—allowing these experiences to exist in the light for a moment before they are let go.Though the intent of this board is wholly to reflect and not to act, I hope that through witnessing, at least one of us can find motivation, relief, or closure.
To best manage scope, this board is intended for queer and/or BIPOC community members in, or connected to, the Southern California kink community. Please only submit an entry if you belong to those communities. All who care about the community are welcomed in the audience.
Maximum 250 words. Short poetry or brief art forms are welcome if the work is your own.
No names, initials, or specific locations. Avoid descriptions of settings or people that serve as deliberate identifiers.
Entries should focus on the impact of the experience or the community’s response, rather than the "badness" of a specific person or organization.
You may submit multiple entries, but please self-limit to a maximum of 3.
Ending with statement or question intended for community reflection is encouraged and optional.
This space can also be used to share your hopes for the community, or supportive words and actions you have not yet been able to share.
Please hold space for where you currently are in your journey.This space is more suited to share small slights and points of reflection than to share significant harm, especially if unresolved. If you find it difficult to create an entry with the above restraints, this may not be the time or project for your hurt.
Initial Submission Window: [Date] – [Date] (One Month).The board will be live on this site after the close of the first submission period.A second, shorter submission window will open halfway through the project's lifespan.This is a temporary project. This site and all submissions will be removed 12 months after launch.Every story submitted is read and witnessed. Because this is a curated archive, not every entry will be posted due to volume or alignment with these parameters. You will not be notified of the reason, as entries are anonymous and not tracked in any way.
Instructions: Review your entry with the checklist below before hitting submit.If you are submitting art in an image format, type "art submission" or any character into the Your Statement box. Please make sure it is something you are okay submitting without a signature/credit, or consider the implications of identifying yourself via the signature/credit.
Under 250 words?
No names, descriptions, or identifying locations?
Focuses on the impact of the experience or the response?
(Optional) Ends with a statement or question for community reflection?
This project does not collect names, email addresses, or IP addresses. Your submission is received as a blind entry and the submitter remains anonymous.By submitting, you grant permission for your words to be displayed on the Unresolved witnessing board and associated social media for the duration of the project. Your words will not be used for any other purpose, sold, or shared with third parties.Entries are posted "as is" and will not be edited or modified. If a submission contains information that violates the guidelines or otherwise requires redaction, the entry will not be posted.This is a temporary public archive. This website is set to "no-index" to prevent listing in search results while being accessible by link. The website and all hosted content will be taken down and permanently retired within 12 months of the launch date.Disclaimer: This board exists for reflection, not action. Note that entries are not vetted for factual accuracy. The ask is that the audience remain witnesses only; do not feel compelled to take action or form judgments against specific entities based on these snapshots. The project facilitator assumes no liability for the interpretations or subsequent actions of others. Individual autonomy remains the responsibility of the visitor; any consequences arising from the use or misuse of this information are held solely by the actor, not the project facilitator.External Use: No permission is granted for the use of any part of this site or its contents for academic research, mainstream media, commercial projects, or any other form of external content creation. Accessing this site constitutes an agreement to refrain from non-consensual use or reproduction.
They created an environment where I was constantly in distress.And they shamed me for it.
I put so much energy in to connecting with you, and I don't think you saw me at all. I learned a lot from you, though, so thank you for that.
I wish I could tell someone how much their kindness has done for me, but I don't know how to say it.